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Gracious Grandparents! Etiquette Tips for New Grandparents


Becoming a grandparent is a momentous occasion filled with love and anticipation. As you embark on this new journey, it’s essential to approach your role with grace, respect, and support. We’ve heard from our readers about the things that are most impactful and most meaningful for new grandparents to do in those early weeks and beyond. 

Here are fifteen ways to navigate this exciting chapter of your life with thoughtfulness and generosity:

1. Be Supportive, Not Overbearing.

Offer your wisdom and guidance as a wise counsel when needed, but refrain from playing the role of an expert or be critical. Be a source of support for the new parents, offering encouragement and reassurance. Let them know that they are doing a great job and that you are proud of them.

2. Respect the Registry.

When buying gifts for the baby shower, choose items from the parents’ registry whenever possible. This ensures that you’re giving them something they truly need and want. A more meaningful or personalized gift is thoughtful after the baby comes. 

2. Only Go in Delivery or Postpartum Room When Asked.

Every family has different preferences so be available and respectful of their wishes. Give them space when needed and be attuned to their needs. 

3. Offer Specific Help.

 Offer practical help around the house, such as doing laundry, grocery shopping, or running errands, to allow the new parents to focus on caring for the baby. Give parents specific choices of ways you can help to make it easy! “Would it be helpful if I picked up something for dinner and the dry cleaning this afternoon?” 

4. Cook and Prepare Meals.

Take the initiative to cook or prepare meals for the new parents, providing nourishing and convenient options. Consider preparing extra meals to stock their freezer before you leave. 

5. Be a Gracious Gatekeeper.

 If you’re staying with the new parents after the baby’s arrival, play the role of a gatekeeper by graciously managing visitors and turning away guests when it’s not a good time.

6. Avoid Comparisons.

Refrain from comparing parenting styles or experiences. Every family is unique, and what works for one may not work for another.

7. Make Visiting Your Home Easy.

Prepare your home for visits from the new parents and the baby. Have a safe and quiet spot for the baby to sleep (a sound machine can be helpful), and ask the parents for their input on essentials such as formula, food, diapers, and monitors.

8. Have a Car Seat.

Ensure that you have a safe car seat installed in your vehicle to transport the baby safely during outings or visits.

9. Treat Parents to a Date Night.

Give the gift of quality time by offering to babysit while the parents enjoy a well-deserved date night together, particularly if you are only in town for a little while.

10. Help How They Want to Be Helped.

Whether it’s holding the baby, running errands, or making dinner, the most helpful thing you can do is meet the new parents where they are. Some moms might appreciate having you hold the baby while they take a break, while others might prefer to focus solely on the baby’s care and would rather have assistance with tasks around the house. Honor their requests and instructions, recognizing that every family’s needs and preferences are unique. By doing so, you will build a strong foundation for a supportive and respectful relationship going forward.

On that note, being a gracious grandparent is about offering love, support, and understanding during this special time. By respecting boundaries, offering assistance, and celebrating this new chapter with joy and grace, you can strengthen your bond with your family and create lasting memories together. Embrace the journey with an open heart and a spirit of generosity, knowing that your presence and support are invaluable to the new parents and the precious new addition to your family.

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